In Jewish we say YHWH ( Hashem)

What’s your favorite word?

H- Haya

A-adonia

Sh- shama

E- Eloah

M- Melech

The acronyms represents most adorable great and mighty God in Jewish.

My favorite word is Hashem in jewish, and GOD

in English. A name embedded within my spirit for all my needs, because Iโ€™m constantly having a conversation with Him about my everything! Itโ€™s great talking to your best friend consistently and not having to worry about this person growing tired of you asking too much, saying too much, taking things too seriously or revealing things in a weird way. He knows my heart and how Iโ€™m made so nothing about me to Him is estranged. That comfort is welcomed to all who just call on His name. I find that so very beautiful that he has no exception of persons. The great catch however when calling Him is to also be ready and willing to listen to Him then following His Word! Showing the love received in return is the hook!

My forever active and most reliable father ๐Ÿ˜

Sexual Assault/ Abuse and Violence Awareness

#ItsNotOkay

Nooo nooo please stop … I woke up to see my bed soaked with my blood and bloody panties, did I stab in between my legs?

oh Jesus last I recall was Uncle Brad who just got back from his travel, and me meeting him for the first time. Uncle Brad said oh Jessica look how plum u have grown, he said I should give him a big hug ( which I spoke to my inner mind saying no) mummy said to her brother, Hey Brad! Jessy doesn’t like being clung to just give her a handshake that should be a great welcoming gesture ๐Ÿ‘‹.

Oh my ( mummy spoke mind just now phew ๐Ÿ˜Œ ) as I went ahead to try giving my uncle Brad a handshake. But he pulled me close and hugged me. Pressing me so tightly against his flat chest. I toiled to get myself out of his arms which was fruitless until mummy came out from the kitchen and saw Uncle Brad’s annoying act she scolded him to let me go at once which he did ( I quickly grabbed my inhaler to pump some air into my lungs ๐Ÿซ at once) I just looked angrily at uncle brad and ran up to my room ( I couldn’t stop thinking ๐Ÿค” what junk is this uncle brad made off )? Phwww.

Shut my door, and decided to occupy myself with school work till I fall asleep, got up when I heard mum screaming my name from downstairs, jessy! Jessy!! Jessica!!! Come down for dinner. Oh my! mum can’t let the African woman in her diie huh? murmured and hurriedly put on a thick clothes to cover all my body part and went downstairs to eat. During dinner mum laughed and questioned why I was so properly dressed in the house and jokingly said is it because of uncle brad is around for the weekend ? I said yes because I didn’t want anything funny to happen.just like what happened this morning.ย  We both laughed it out and started eating.I caught uncle brad severally making eye gestures at me and I couldn’t help but feel irritated like this is a 32 year old man acting like this to a 17 year old teenage girl like me. I just couldn’t finish my dinner, kissed my mum goodnight and bid my baby brother bye, as i ran up to my room again. Cuddled my Teddy ๐Ÿป and drove off to dream land.

My room was so dark when I woke up to feel some huge hands inside my shirt and founding with my barely growing nipples, I was trying so hard to look for a touch until I heard him say don’t scream and don’t turn on the lamp it’s me uncle brad, I paused, scared and shaking, my mouth was firmly shut as he bent me on my tummy, pulled my panties and gradually forced himself on me. I was crying and shaking at the same time, trying to fight his big hand off my face to let me breath or shout at least.ย  Uncle brad kept going in and out of me till I lost my consciousness.

Regaining my self and dragging my selfless body out of my bed, to see my bed soaked in red. Bloody and bruised inner thighs, I screamed with every energy in me and called for my mum. mummy!!!mummy!!mummy! See , seeeee. All I can remember was my mun rushing to my room and I blacked out. Waking up again and I looked around to notice that i was connected to something that looked like a life support machine, all my arms and leg numb, i could barely feel my toes. My lips clunged to each other, shut tight like I could be charged for every words that came out of it. The doctor asked my mum what happened, mummy said she didn’t know, she just met me like this in my room by morning.ย  Doctor turned to me and asked me what happened I couldn’t speak, if I tried to talk,all I remembered was how dumb I was the night uncle brad held my mouth. I closed my eyes and drifted to a state of uncountiousness again.

My mum telling me I was in coma for 3 days and I have been taken to the surgery room twice now after 4 stitches in my private part.ย  The doctor came with my report and my mum read it to me that uncle brad raped me and after further investigation I was found filled with 1.4liters of semen that morning. Mummy also said she can’t reach uncle brad and after that last night dinner she didn’t see uncle brad in the guest room. Uncle brad is on the run and I pray he gets caught so he pays for everything he did to me.

Making my life a living hell, now I wake up living each day with fright of the male gender, fear residing in me and the ever living trauma that doesn’t seem to go away even after 4 years of this incidence.

#staysafe

#theissueoffeminism

#femalelifesmatter

#justiceโš–

#mystorymylife

Not a grudge but a sneek peep into my past.

Are you holding a grudge? About?

I won’t call it a grudge,ย  because I see myself accepting and letting go. I am at ease now, funny, though, I have chosen to let the past slide and ignore the hurts. Forgive myself and forgive they tha hurt me . That’s the essence of “Our Lords prayer” right? . Yh, I am walking on the narrow path and eyes focused ,gazing at what future I wish to have. Ignoring or my big dreams and taking life as it seems. Forgetting totally the past even when a recall a moment as I walk through memory lane. I shut my eyes and heart wispery some reassuring phases.

“It’s all in the past”, “he didn’t mean to hurt you”, “she wasn’t really aware of how much pain she brought you then”, “he never really cared” “his not coming back again to hurt you”,”you are free from his clutchs”. And I open my eyes and smile because the holyspirt is within me and my future is be planned by my creator. Optimistic about the pain I felt was a lesson to teach me what I need to avoid in my future and what lesson learnt, that those pain have no power over me . Not any more.

I feel no grudge,ย  I feel placid, and at ease that I can now proceed to the next chapter of my life.

Above all Thanks to my creator

A person with no connection from the ordained source.

What personality trait in people raises a red flag with you?

A person who has no connection with God raises a red flag with me. It is okay to have all red flags and attitudes that irks but what is never okay is not knowing your source. Not knowing your creator.

A person soked in Anger and emotional instability as a flying red flag for me, a person with fruit of evil.

Bitterness,ย  Anger, pain, wrath, inconsistencies in emotions, cunning, confused ๐Ÿ˜•,ย  uneasy, rising hot Anger issues and unleft pain from past love is a huge turn off for me in anything.

Where do I begin counselling from? The person needs God to fix him.

An Episode of Life

Surviving the storm and finding whatever light you can hold onto.

You ever notice how life hands you the lessons first then the understanding long after you have already bled for it? That’s the real jokeโ€”no warning, no signs. Just a hard slap across the face that you didn’t see coming.

It’s funny, though, how we keep hoping for a little bit of grace, we wake up thinking maybe today would be easier, tha the pieces might finally fall into place. But they never do not the way you want. You grind, you push, you do everything right, and yet somehow the world always seem one step ahead of you, out of reach, like its playing a game, and you didn’t even know the rules until you are losing.

And then there are those days when you are just tired. Tired of fighting, tired of running on fumes, tired of watching you plans fall apart like sand sliding through your fingers. And what do they tell you? โ€œKeep goingโ€, thats the advice right? Bit what if you don’t know what you are chasing anymore? what if everytime you think you have found it. the whole damn thing shifts on you, like a mirage in the desert?

They say perseverance is the key. That if you hold on long enough, things would turn around. But no one tell you that perseverance can break you. Tha hanging on a thread can be the loneliest place in the world. And some night, when everything is quiet, it’s just you and your thoughts, you wonder if it’s all worth it. If the fight, the struggle, the constant uphill climbโ€”is really leading anywhere or if you are just spinning your wheels in the mud.

But then in the middle of all that doubt, something strange happens, you find this small, stubborn part of youโ€”deep downโ€”, that refuses to Quit.โ€™ its not loud or glamorousโ€™; its quiet almost invisible but its there, and it keeps you going one step after another, even when the road is long and path unclear, its not hope exactly; its something more like defiance. Arefuser to let the world knock you down for good.

Maybe thats the truth no one talks about, it’s not about finding some grants purpose or chasing some loft dreams, it’s about show up. Even when you are empty even when you’re lost. It’s about standing in the wreckage of your expectations and deciding to move forward anyway. Even if you don’t know where you’re headed.

Because in the end maybe life isn’t about wining or losing, maybe it’s about surviving the storm, finding whatever light you can and holding onto it, even if it’s just a flicker in the dark, and maybe just maybe thats enough.

Life itself is a game. A game of card I may call it.

What’s your favorite game (card, board, video, etc.)? Why?

Board games could be tricky,  but if we compare life to the video game then we would know that we are all in a race. A race that doesn’t have an end. It might have an end but would always find a way to continue.

In the video game, you decided to hit an object and stop moving or you keep moving and aim to be the first. Quite tricky right? Nothing to worry about the game would always go on either you hit an object and stop or you take first position.

So why don’t you aim higher, aim to not just be the winner but the best of all racers. Aim for the price and also avoid hitting an obstacle that would make you fall and quit.

The journey is far but achievable . If you find life hard just go back to the manual ( scriptures) and read about how to navigate life with ease. You can’t get it wrong if you are connected to the right source.

XOXO

Until next time ๐Ÿ˜.

To the man I’d love the most

If you could host a dinner and anyone you invite was sure to come, who would you invite?

In a drawing board, and a glitter man to sculpt my dinner plans .

I would not think or rethinking inviting my ex over for dinner. Not the ex I met in the last months of our break ups but the guy the holy spirit brought to me. As a gem ๐Ÿ’Ž and a light to my path.

It’s been months, thought I’d never write to you again. But here I am, saying hi. Those hi I can’t say in your face because of the anger that burns in me when I see you. Because of the unforgivness I haven’t groomed in me for you. I know one day, I’d smile and be thankful it all ended when it did and how it did.

I wish you come over for dinner,  and look into my eyes after 6 years, and tell me those words you had to swallow in. Those feelings you had to hide for far too long. Those cravings you had to kill. Those limit you had to respect and most especially those lies you told to make me feel alone.  I do miss you, I have always missed you, but soon I know it would be all worth it. I am waiting but not for you anymore. I’d wait for your lookalike to seat at dinner with me. TO THE GUY I LOVE THE MOST.

If I had to re-live my past.

Write about a time when you didn’t take action but wish you had. What would you do differently?

A stroll to my past…

If wishes were to come to pass. I’d wish to start this year’s journey afresh.

I’d wish to begin with a new slate, to go back to my past and rewrite my present. To reduce the pain I feel now and escape from losing you.

If I could throw a coin in a wishing well I’d wish for just one thing. Which is for you to never leave my hands.

I wish I can go back to January and try to change the energy I put into making you happy on your special day, because they say love is a transaction but you ended it without paying your transaction ( Maybe you planned it all or maybe you never cared) it’s really painful even if I could go back to my past what much change can be made exaxtly? You detached from me the very beginning, even from the day we met you where never attached. You loved me less over and over that even if I go back to start my year again theres not so much to change afterall. I wish you gave the same energy from onset. I wish you gave just more energy to change yourself for the best  I wish you were different to some extent. it seem to me that I had high expectations and I raised your standard so high that you think so high of yourself nowadays, I respect you a lot and I have ever loved you a lot but then love Is Not Enough respect Is Not Enough we just don’t collide in the world that we shared.

What past action was good enough to make the change that I seek?

I wish I didn’t ignore your flaws

I wish I didn’t raise you on a standard so high that you can’t reach.

I wish I took instant action the very moment you decide to be unfaithful.

I wish I didn’t take it so lightly and forguve you with ease

I wish even when you said sorry I wish I broke it off at that very moment if I did I wouldn’t feel this pain I feel right now.

if you couldnt change thenย  I guess it’s not good enough to make the change now

I wish I can go back to our past the past where we loved each other and could do anything to make ourselves happy.

I wish you could go back to the past where I was your right hand lady where you did everything to make me happy and those happy moments we shared together.

I wish I can go back to the memories, to love you again whenever I hear you again or whenever I feel your presence around me.

Sometimes I question myself and ask how long does it take to heal exactly? they say healing never ends but then only God in heaven can help us heal totally I prayed for this peace I yawned for this peace of mind I was sure too good to get my hands off you I wanted more just couldn’t settle for less. I wanted my dream guy, yh I wanted perfection I never knew this peace could be as lonely and scary as it’s seem right now.ย  I wish you made a difference everyday. I struggled to find peace with you I wish we were equally yoked together if wishes were flowers ๐Ÿ’ I’d own a garden right now.

Xoxo my lovelies until next time ๐Ÿ˜.

Chaio๐Ÿ‘‹

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